How to potty train…The mere mention of those words can make the fiercest of mommas get all twisted and cringy inside.  Cringy…that’s a word, right?

Well, these 10 tips will make your life a whole lot easier when you decide to take the plunge (no pun intended)…

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#1.

REMEMBER, YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO BE SUPER COMMITTED AND PRESENT DURING THE FIRST COUPLE OF DAYS. THAT MEANS YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO “UNPLUG.” 

APPS AND TECH ARE DESIGNED TO KEEP US DISTRACTED SO THAT WE REMAIN ON THE PLATFORMS FOR LONGER PERIODS OF TIME…THAT MEANS THAT THEY ARE CREATED TO MAKE US LOSE TRACK OF TIME AND OUR SURROUNDINGS.

SO FOR THE FIRST FEW DAYS, PUT DOWN THE PHONE AND MAKE SOME SERIOUS ONE-ON-ONE PLAY WITH YOUR KIDDO HAPPEN.

**REAL-TALK ALERT**

CAN I BE COMPLETELY HONEST FOR A SEC?

I STRUGGLE WITH PLAY…

I AM NOT AFRAID TO TELL YOU THAT I REALLY LIKE WORKING…

I ENJOY WRITING AND DOING PROJECTS AND MARKING THINGS OFF MY TO-DO LIST…

BUT SITTING ON THE FLOOR PLAYING BARBIES OR TRAINS? WELL, IT’S JUST NOT MY JAM.
(NO JUDGMENT HERE, Y’all.)

THE TRUTH IS, I USUALLY END UP FEELING GUILTY BECAUSE I AM NEGLECTING SOME OTHER RESPONSIBILITY OR CHORE.  

AND THEN THE GUILT GETS OUT OF CONTROL BECAUSE i FEEL GUILTY IF I DO THE CHORE INSTEAD OF THE PLAY… 

THIS IS WHAT I NOT-SO-LOVINGLY CALL THE MOM-GUILT CATCH 22. Mom Guilt…It’s no joke!

WHAT I’m SAYING HERE IS THAT I GET NOT BEING THRILLED ABOUT BEING SOLELY TETHERED TO YOUR KID’S DESIRES FOR SEVERAL DAYS ON END…

AFTER ALL, YOU CAN LOVE THEM MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOUR NEXT BREATH AND STILL NOT LIKE PLAYING.

BUT DURING THIS TIME, IT IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT THAT YOUR DISTRACTIONS ARE AT BAY.

SO FIND SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN BOTH ENJOY TOGETHER.

MY GO-TO’S ARE COLORING, PLAY-DOH AND READING BOOKS…YOU KNOW, ACTIVITIES WHERE YOU DON’T HAVE TO MAKE A TOY TALK.

#2.

REMEMBER TO KEEP YOUR TIMER HANDY. BUT UNDERSTAND THAT EVEN WITH A STRICT TIMER, SOMETIMES YOUR TOT MAY NOT MAKE IT.  

#3.

REMEMBER, EXPECTING YOUR KIDDO TO BE COMPLETELY TRAINED (IN ANYTHING) IN ONLY A WEEKEND IS RIDICULOUS.  

IN FACT, IT WOULD BE HARMFUL TO YOUR LITTLE ONE (AND TO YOURSELF) TO HOLD THOSE KINDS OF EXPECTATIONS, SO JUST DON’T.  

IN ALL THINGS, PARENTING INCLUDED, YOU WILL FIND THAT LEARNING, TEACHING, AND TRAINING TAKE LOTS OF TIME AND REPETITIVE ACTION.  

#4.

REMEMBER THAT THEY WILL EVENTUALLY GET IT.

(IF YOU FEEL LIKE THAT’S NOT TRUE, JUST LOOK AROUND. YOU DON’T SEE MANY TEENAGERS SPORTING MICKEY MOUSE HUGGIES, DO YOU?)  

SO EVEN THOUGH IT MAY FEEL MILES AWAY WHEN YOU START, JUST REMEMBER TO KEEP PUTTING ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER.  ONE PEE AT A TIME, YOU’LL MAKE IT TO FULL-TIME UNDIE-WEARING.

#5.

REMEMBER THAT JUST BECAUSE YOUR BFF’S DAUGHTER GOT FULLY POTTY-TRAINED IN 4 DAYS, THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOUR SON WILL.  BUT IF YOU KEEP AT IT, YOU WILL BE SHARING YOUR OWN SUCCESS STORY VERY SOON.

#6.

ON THE “BEING READY” NOTE, YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT THIS WILL WORK BEST IF YOUR KIDDO CAN COMMUNICATE WITH YOU EFFECTIVELY BEFORE YOU BEGIN.  

#7.

USE THE “FEED THE FISHES” TRICK.  I CAN’T REMEMBER WHERE I PICKED UP THIS TRICK, BUT I’VE USED IT TO HELP ALL OF MY KIDS GO POOP ON THE TOILET.  

FOR SOME REASON, TOILET-POOPING IS SCARIER THAN TOILET-PEEING…TELLING THEM THAT WHEN THEY POOP, THEY GET TO “FEED THE FISHES.”  ALLOWS IT TO BECOME MORE FUN AND LESS SCARY.

#8.

SINCE YOUR TOT IS NAKED DURING MUCH OF THIS PROCESS, PREPARE YOURSELF FOR A FEW MESSES…IF YOU HAVE NON-CARPETED FLOORS, THANK YOUR LUCKY STARS.  

IF NOT, YOU CAN GRAB A DISPOSABLE PUPPY PAD OR AN OLD TOWEL TO HAVE HANDY DURING PLAYTIMES.  (AND KEEP A SPRAY BOTTLE WITH VINEGAR, WATER & DAWN MIXTURE FOR THE messes…IT’S MAGIC.)

#9.

I NEVER USED A TODDLER TOILET…BECAUSE #1, ewwwww. I’VE GOT ENOUGH THINGS TO CLEAN, AND I DID NOT WANT TO HAVE TO CLEAN THE EQUIVALENT OF A TODDLER OUTHOUSE!   

AND #2, I ALWAYS FIGURED THAT TRAINING THEM ONCE TO USE THE BIG TOILET WAS BETTER THAN TRAINING THEM ON A TODDLER TOILET AND THEN HAVING TO RETRAIN THEM ON THE REGULAR ONE.  

BONUS, YOU’LL NEVER HAVE AN OH-DANG-WE’RE-IN-A-PUBLIC-PLACE-AND-THERE-IS-NO-TINY-TOILET-AND-NOW-WE-HAVE-TO-USE-THE-BIG-SCARY-TOILET PROBLEM.  YOU’RE WELCOME. 🙂

#10.

REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE FABULOUS AND SO IS YOUR TOT. THIS IS SUPER-DUPER HARD, BUT IT IS JUST A STAGE…YOU’LL GET THROUGH IT AND SO WILL THEY.

WHILE YOU’RE IN IT, BE PRESENT.

ONE OF THE BIGGEST LESSONS THAT I’VE LEARNED AS A PARENT IS THAT THIS IS LIFE.

EVEN WHEN THE JOB ISN’T GLAMOROUS, THIS IS LIFE.

AND IF I WISH EVEN THE SHORTEST STAGE AWAY, THEN I WILL MISS OUT ON TIME THAT I WILL NEVER GET BACK.

POTTY TRAINING, PACKING LUNCHES, DOING BEDTIMES…THIS IS LIFE. 

AND THOUGH IT MAY BE CRAZY HARD AT TIMES, I PROMISE THAT ONE DAY YOU’LL LOOK BACK AND SMILE OVER THESE DAYS, WONDERING WHERE THE TIME HAS GONE.  

AND WHEN YOU RUN INTO HARD DAYS, COME BACK HERE…I’VE BEEN THERE & THAT’S WHY I DO WHAT i DO.

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