In one of my recent Magic Monday Newsletters I spoke about HOW TO GET KIDS TO EAT…

It was such a popular “episode” with a huge positive response that I decided I needed to share it here with the rest of you.

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If you have kids who whine at the dinner table…

If dinner time is your most stressful part of the day…

And if you’re tired of cooking multiple dinners just to get them to eat…

Then this is EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED…

Here’s the “How to Get a Child to Eat When They Refuse” magic I shared with my magic monday tribe…

I got so mad last night…

Matt spent the afternoon preparing an AMAZING dinner and as we sat down to the dinner table the kids started being complete brats…

Yep, I said it. 

Y’all, I was about to lose my mind.

And as Matt presented the dinner that he created for us, objections started spewing like a cola bottle full of Mentos…

It wasn’t pretty. 

I’m telling you…There were gagging faces and eye rolls and more whining than ever necessary.

I don’t know about you, but in our house, we have established the “Eat-This-or-Eat-Tomorrow Rule” regarding family dinner, so they didn’t have the option to eat something else.

I’ll be honest though…This isn’t always easy for them to understand (especially the 3-year-old), but it is a rule that we choose not to budge on.

Raise your hand if you don’t want to cook 9 different dinners every night…

Yeah, me too. (Been there. Done that. Hated my life.)

So, anyway, back to the dinner table…

As I said, it wasn’t pretty.

There were whines…

There were tears…

There were carrots.

A couple of the kids decided that they were hungry enough to try it, but the other half went to bed pretty hungry (and not very happy).

Everyone left the dinner table exasperated.

Once I cooled off and cleared the table, I sat down to talk to them at bedtime…

I wanted to share the talk with you today because I bet my family isn’t the only one that deals with this dinner time battle.

Because here’s the thing…

These little humans don’t come pre-programmed with good manners and control of their emotions…

It is up to us to shape them and mold them into productive and kind members of society…

Not easy.

Now, I have done my share of trying to hammer these things into my kids with lecture after lecture…

Yet I STILL haven’t fully gotten the message through to them…

But Last Night I Had this Getting Kids to Eat Lightbulb Moment…

It actually came from a marketing tactic…Imagine that…

You see, in the business world, in order to get a prospective client or customer to do what you want them to do (e.g. buying your product or hiring your service), you have to make them feel the pain… 

(Needed disclaimer: No children were made to feel physical pain during this lesson…) 

Want to Know What I Said?

Okay, I’ll tell you…

As I sat down with them before bedtime I knew that the same talk about being respectful and using their manners wasn’t going to cut it…

I had to dig through all the stuff that they have heard before and get them to feel the pain of what it means to be disrespectful and rude to someone…

So I flipped the script and gave them a taste of their own medicine…

I told them to close their eyes and imagine that they spent hours working on a project for me…

…That they imagined it, got out all the craft supplies, and created the perfect thing that they knew would make me happy and feel good…

Then I had them to imagine that they were so pleased with how it turned out, so they excitedly found me…

I told them to now imagine that when they presented it to me I wasn’t excited.

Instead, I took one look, scrunched up my nose in disgust and rolled my eyes…

I asked them to imagine how it would feel for me to reject something that they had worked so hard at…That they had created especially for me…

And that I hated it.

I could see it on the faces…It was like a kick in the gut.

It finally clicked.

They bought what I was selling.

Here’s What I Did Next…

I bridged it back to what had happened at the dinner table.

I asked them to think back to dinner…

“Dinner is something that Daddy or I create for you. 

It is something that we spend time thinking about, planning for, and designing to make you feel full, happy, and satisfied…

Remember how you would feel if I rejected your creation?

Well, that’s what it feels like when you reject what we create for you.

It is frustrating and hurtful.

So the next time you are presented with dinner, remember that how you react matters.” 

Empathy for the win, you guys.

It totally worked.

Now at any meal where they seem a little crabby, I quickly remind them that dinner is something that someone created just for them, and that even if it isn’t their favorite, they should be thankful.

Now I want to know…Do you have any special hacks on how to get kids to eat or ways to help them understand something complex?

I’d love to hear from you…Scroll down to the bottom and leave your thoughts in the comments now. 🙂

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